I recently read an little tidbit on 'Mom-Shaming' (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mommy-nearest-/5-mom-shaming-trends-that-need-to-stop-now_b_6035514.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063) and thought that it brings some great points, and I've been on both sides of numerous of the arguments there. However, the one that really stood out to me is the Working vs Stay-at-Home mom.
I think people need to realize a few things.
One) A job is not always a career, and a career is not always work. If you LOVE what you do, then it doesn't feel like work. In my opinion, whether husband or wife, your CAREER should be your 'CALLING', the thing you were born to do, destined to suceed at. This 'career' can be what you leave home to do, or what you do at home.
Two) Let's face it, some ladies just aren't meant to be a stay-at-home mom. And others aren't meant to be away from their kids. We all know at least one of each. And there's those like me, who on some days I can't wait to get away, and other days I don't want to (and sometimes won't) leave them.
Three) Some of us consider being a Mom their career, calling, etc. Others of us consider being a mom just a part of life and a side thing while their money making career comes first. And yet others are stuck working away from home while not wanting anything more than to stay at home with their kids, and then some are opposite, feeling stuck at home when they want to be out working.
Four) Compromise is sometimes all you need. I know lots of moms who (myself included) work at home. I have my own business, and love what I do. I don't have many clients right now, but I haven't been working to get more because I love being with my kids, and my husband works full time. I know so many amazing moms who love teaching preschool out of their home. I know some others who have hair/nail studios in their home. Others wait till their kids are at school and find a job within the same hours that the kids are gone. Why not? Its what they studied and worked to be educated in, and I think its a great example for their kids of prioritizing.
Five) Life gives everyone different chances, we take what we get and interpret in our own way.
So my point: we all have our own opinions, and we need to not judge! That's the biggest factor in all the above. And there's always the chance that we don't know the back story or reasons why someone does something, so before you judge someone for doing something different than you, maybe think of what others could judge you about.
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